Obsessed with porn? Try a New Strategy

Does it have an impact on your relationships or your life? Why is it so difficult to avoid porn? I've been there, done that, and am here to share my experiences. I've found some solutions that can help you deal with porn, and they don't involve making yourself stop watching it. Recognize your motivations for choosing porn, reclaim control over the urge, develop integrity and strength, and reestablish contact with your loved ones and yourself.

"I have the option to stop viewing porn at any time, and I do so almost daily. 

However, I can't fight the urge to start over. Am I a porn addict?" Does this describe who you are? Although many psychologists disagree, some believe that porn can be addictive. I've watched porn in the past, and I've gone years without porn without experiencing withdrawals, leakhive so it's not addictive like a drug can be. A simple explanation that doesn't really explain anything is to say that porn is addictive.

Nevertheless, I have occasionally had a hard time avoiding porn. 

I noticed it most when I was stressed, alone, or depressed. Why shouldn't I indulge in a romantic fantasy relationship with a lovely, open woman who has no obligations or demands? What harm is there? However, I hadn't made any progress with whatever was bothering me when it was all over and I was cleaning up the results. I don't want to consider how much time I've wasted watching porn while engaging in pointless activities. Why then did I keep returning to it?

Porn was an intriguing way for me to learn about a taboo subject as a teenager. 

Later, when my first marriage was disintegrating and my business was failing, I turned to porn as a means of temporary solace. I turned to porn during the depressingly lonely years that followed the divorce. All of that made some sense, but even after Victoria moved in with me, I couldn't help but be drawn to porn, which bothered her. How was I supposed to understand that? I now had a compelling reason to stop, but I was addicted to porn.

Understanding

Men are more visually oriented than women, and it's a way to appease the male instinct to spread his seed, among other lame explanations I found when trying to understand why I was hooked. There were numerous justifications as well, such as "I'm not harming anyone," "it has nothing to do with you, Sweetie," and "at least I'm not out pursuing other women."

Up until I discovered this straightforward explanation, nothing made sense to me: 

using porn is a tactic to satiate some deep need inside of me. The fundamental idea is that attempts to satisfy fundamental human needs drive behaviour. A straightforward illustration: if I were a caveman in need of shelter, I would seek out a cave; if I were a young professional, I would rent an apartment. But because we are complex beings, frequently satisfying one need means neglecting another. To find food, the caveman might have to slumber outside. Due to financial constraints, the young professional might have to choose between the nice apartment and renting a house with a friend. In essence, they both need to come up with new methods to satisfy their need for shelter.